Like many legal processes, divorce has its share of myths surrounding it. Some of these myths are widely accepted as fact and could even be preventing you from filing for divorce. So, it is important to know the truth behind any myths.
For instance, you do not need to get divorced in the state where you married. Suppose you said, "I do," in New York and later moved to Texas. No need to uproot your life and move back to New York. You can file from Texas. Now for a look at a few other myths...
You need a lawyer
This is actually a common-sense precaution. It is possible to receive a divorce without a lawyer, but having someone advocate for you can streamline the process considerably and helps ensure that no one takes advantage of you, your children or your business.
Divorce is nasty
No doubt you have heard horror stories about divorces in the media and from your friends. Perhaps you even witnessed your parents going through a horrendous split. Yes, some divorces are terrible and full of fighting. Many, however, are collaborative even when numerous emotions are in play. If both you and your spouse can commit to fair negotiation, there is every reason to believe that your divorce will go well and that you will not have to step foot inside a courtroom.
Only women get custody and spousal support
Courts now recognize that children are better off when both of their parents, absent extreme situations, are involved in their lives. Men who seek custody of their children are likely to receive at least joint custody because it is usually in the children's best interest.
As for spousal support, it is no longer true that the man always pays the woman. Quite a few husbands have used spousal support to help them get back on their feet after a split.
You lose everything if you cheated
Texas does technically still allow adultery as grounds for divorce, but any impact on your divorce should be minimal or nonexistent. Judges normally recognize that adultery is often a symptom of deeper troubles in the marriage.